| Why
do conservative Christians condemn us for an orientation which we did
not choose?
Why do
heterosexual Christians feel they are so much better than us when they
feel free to divorce and remarry against biblical rules?
If
God made me gay, how can He expect me not to engage in gay sex?
- Why
do conservative Christians condemn us for an orientation which we
did not choose?
- They
don't think that's what they're doing. Unfortunately there's a
communication problem because conservative Christians are often
unaware that there's such a thing as a homosexual orientation. They
see homosexuality only in terms of sexual behavior -- i.e.
same-gender genital or oral sex. So when they condemn homosexuality, in
their minds, they are condemning same-gender genital and oral sex, not
homosexually oriented persons who are not engaging in sex. It's a
matter of a lack of education, and we're trying to fill the gap. But
it's a slow process.
- If you're a celibate or married gay or lesbian
Christian, just
remember that the preacher isn't talking about you when he's
referring to homosexuality in his Sunday sermon. What he's got in his mind is the
latest TV show advocating gay sex and marriage as a human right. Or
maybe he's got a picture of the news shots from the last Gay Pride
demonstration in his mind.
- Try not to take it personally -- unless you
were in that last parade nearly naked, making a spectacle of
yourself!
 (And if you can
figure out how to get him or her to take a look at our web site,
that should help. H'mm... why not write to us, giving us your
pastor's name, phone number and email address, and we'll see if
he'll communicate with one of us. Don't worry, we won't give away
who sent us the information. [back]
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- Why
do heterosexual Christians feel they are so much better than us when they
feel free to divorce and remarry against biblical rules?
- It's
probably a matter of built-in societal prejudices. The Bible is
clear on the appropriate venue for sexual contact -- a life-long
union between one man and one woman. Divorce and remarriage is no
more in harmony with God's plan than is homosexual sex.
This is not meant to condemn all who have been divorced and
remarried. Jesus did say there was one condition under which divorce
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- If God made me gay,
how can He expect me not to engage in gay sex?
- We believe that your statement is based on two false
assumptions:
- 1. You assume that your condition is the result of God's active
intervention. But God does not normally intervene in the
cause-effect relationship in our world. What He does, instead, is
to give us grace and strength to deal with the situation in which
we find ourselves.
Homosexuality appears to be the result of the complicated
inter-action of biological and sociological factors -- all of
which, in turn, resulted from the sinful conditions on this
planet.
- 2. You assume that what is "natural" is moral. But
that's not what the Bible teaches. It says that "the heart is
deceitful above all things and desperately wicked." That's
the "natural" heart. We also read that we are all
sinners and that the "natural man receives not the things of
the Spirit ..."
The way of Christ is always a path of self-denial -- whether we
are heterosexually or homosexually oriented. He said, "If
anyone would be my disciple let him take up his cross daily and
follow me." When He said this, the cross wasn't a pretty
little gold pendant on a delicate chain. It was an instrument of
torture reserved only for the lowest of the low criminals. So we
should hardly expect that the Christian walk would be a means of
fulfilling all our natural desires. [back] [top]
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