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One of the main purposes of this list is to support
each other as we seek to develop and maintain a relationship with
Christ in our individual life circumstances. So we discourage the
posting of political items and controversial points of belief.
While sexually explicit language may at times be
necessary in the discussion, unnecessary sexual references and
sexual jokes are discouraged.
We believe each of us has but a dim and partial
understanding of God’s truth, and He guides each of us in
individual ways from our unique starting points toward the center of
His understanding. Thus I expect posters to be respectful of others'
views, even though these may be perceived as being wrong.
We each have the responsibility to be true to the
convictions to which God has led us, while keeping an open mind
toward new insights He may bring. This needs to be evident in the
way we talk to each other, and thus it is useful to use phrases such
as "I think," "It seems to me," or "I
feel," rather than bluntly telling others how wrong they are.
We encourage subscribers to remember that the most
effective way to persuade others to allow God to work in their lives
is to testify of his power in our own lives. Thus our goal should
not be to convince others to see things "our way," but to
simply share what our experiences and study have led us to
Since this is a support list for those who are
convinced that sexual activity is only appropriate within the
covenantal bond of heterosexual marriage, posts arguing the
acceptability of gay sex are not appropriate for this list. However,
honest questions are always appropriate.
We try to make this a safe place for everyone
concerned and may return a post to you because of possibly hurtful
content. If your post is returned, please revise it and submit
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If you have a disagreement with a moderator, please
discuss it in private instead of writing to others about your
disagreement. Critical gossip destroys the atmosphere we wish to
maintain on this list and we will not knowingly keep subscribers who
engage in it.